Happiness...

We usually find happiness dont know where all but if we look properly its everywhere.we miss findind it. I wont say much about it because I myself keep complaining about it,I most of the time fail to find happiness.

Today after a long time,may be for some time,it seems life has taken some fresh air in my life,i felt like standing in my terrace and dance and sing some song...sounds funny but i am capable of doing all kind of madness.

I have taken a break,Im at home and I am doing what I wanted to do,being with my family,sleeping,eating and lazying around. Life seems so beautiful. No hurry to find a job. I know as soon as I get one,life will again be the same,very much routinized,so I am just enjoying. Here most of my (actually All) friends got married long back. But whenever I come home I without a fail meet my childhood freind. We have been friend for 23 years now. We met when we started walking and talking, then we started going to school together. It was fun.We used to play together and when we grew up we used to walk together towards gol gappa stalls or the market to buy eve silly things like a 2RS. pen - but it was fun.

Then I went out for higher studies and job, she remained here.But whenever I used to come home,without a fail we used to meet and walk and chat. Then 3 years ago I got to know that she would be getting married. Well,many of my friends got married but I never had that exitement.But with this friend I felt so different, she was someone who was not my best friend but a steady friend, since childhood even before our parents enrolled our names in nursery!!!

Now I got to know that she is going to give birth to a baby...wow!!I actually am running short of expression and words to say narrate that feeling.It was so pure form of happiness. So today I went to see her, I felt great. I still ws trying to connect this would be mom with the small kid i first met and with whom I used to play,time moves so fast. Its not quite long ago when we used to go out in the evening and our best hang out place used to be the local railway station. we used to sit there - very quiet ambience, peaceful - its not a busy urban place so...we used to enjoy now she has become a lady who is going to give birth to another wonderful creation. Then the same cycle will continue, the small kid will grow up and may be he/ she will meet some friend whom he/she will start going tp school,playing together....The feeling is so wonderful.I feel more responsible now.

On the way to her place, I met another friend of mine, he and his wife both are my friends with whom I had some great moments during my college days. Well, now he is a proud father of a 3 days old son!!! Wow...seems happiness is all around the corner. Hope,happiness,a new generation is on the way....

And when I reached home, I received one unexpected call from one of my best pals.After a long time we have spoken.Now I had no word.I just am happy and thankful to God for so many good things in a day.

A comment from a stranger made my day!!!

A more relaxed Sunday. Though scorching heat made me a little low. So I canceled my favourite time pass - to travel long in bus. Today I wanted to go to Chandni Chawk or some place in Old Delhi but seeing the Sun frowning at me, I didn't dare to go out and explore some part of old Delhi. But thankfully I am blessed with some friends, no matter how the weather is, we just need to catch up to have fun even in such hot summer or even in coldest winter night. Trust me, nothing can be better than having like minded buddies around with whom you can be yourself. So it was silly jokes,laughter and even serious guidance. But something beyond these made my day (can I call it Evening?)

Well, I had to withdraw some money from my favourite bank and went there. The ATM had 3 machines and I saw the customers struggling with them. As soon as I entered a small sweet kid showed a very kind gesture by telling me " Didi, the machine does not have money.Mummy is trying for so long" then his Mummy too informed that its been few minutes that all the customers are trying hard but the machines seem to have no cash in it. Well, I was supposed to leave but thought to give it a try. The customers who had been trying all the three machines, helped me to use any of the machine I wanted , they left with a sigh. I tried one and thankfully the machine gave me the required amount. The kid and his mummy was still standing there and trying other machines. They saw me successfully withdrawing money, they again tried the other machine and this time they too successfully could withdraw the amount.

Well,no big deal. There was no satellite problem though some problem was there which made people not to withdraw money. But the lady got so happy and excited that she started saying 'hey young lady, you are so lucky for us. As soon as you enter the machine started working" not only to me, she went out and started telling this to everyone that how lucky I was for all the customers who were trying so hard for so long to withdraw some money.

Ohh,I was amazed and taken aback. I felt so good, I felt her words to be magic. I didn't know her so did she. But see, I ended up feeling so good. Genuine compliment comes very rare.People may talk good about me not because they really mean it but because ... there can be so many reason, better not to discuss.

I dont remember when the last time I receive a genuine compliment. I usually dont take compliments too seriously. Yes I love spreading happiness, confidence and positivity whom so ever I feel important in my life but such unexpected compliment is something I will forever remember. Its so lucky to be called lucky for someone.

Its all about some feelings

A very strange feeling - I feel like a stranger. Being in one organization for 2 years makes me feel somehow stagnant. This is not what I have been looking for.After a period of time you seek a little more, in terms of recognition and appreciation. 

I was trying to understand why people move on?I usually heard its the growth factor that makes one to move on. Does it mean one place can not give enough opportunities to grow? I have no answer for this but yes I feel its all about depreciation value. If one be loyal, hard working, dedicated and so on, people start taking that person for granted. Specially a volatile field like mine, its, I feel, always better not to stick to one single place, then it so happened that you are taken for granted and yes, you yourself stop evaluating yourself.

And when you plan to move on, the whole situation changes, Suddenly you become the betrayer, someone who has done the worst thing ever etc etc. People avoid eye contacts & treat you as if " Og my God..you are the one who has committed the sin?" So the situation is even tricky. The whole situation becomes so that you stop feeling to be a part of the environment anymore. It becomes suffocating enough to survive. You are not being quite trusted anymore, not being a part of any important thing anymore. So you end up feeling a complete left out. I belive more or less same thing happens to almost everyone.

There are very few organization who give a happy treatment to the one who is on the way to sail to new shore, very few organizations give a happy farewell with complete appreciation of the time,energy,skill,loyalty you have invested.

Does anyone value hard work and loyalty anymore? I doubt. 

Just one SMS

This SMS was shared my by COO. I found it nice so thought to share with my friends who visit my blog on a regular basis. Realize how important it is to shed our ego to keep the love alive.

"Once there was an island where all the feelings lived together.One day there was a storm in the sea & the island was about to drown. Every feeling was scared but LOVE made a boat to escape. Every feeling borrowed the boat, one feeling was left. LOVE got down to see who it was. It was EGO. LOVE tried and tried but EGO didnt move. Everyone asked LOVE to leave EGO & come in the boat but LOVE was meant to love, it remained with EGO. All other feelings left alive but LOVE died because of EGO..."

Spa - an interesting concept

I never have posted anything which I havent written but this morning I have read this article in The Indian Express and found it quite interesting. So you too enjoy.

Imagine dipping your feet in a tank of water while fish nibble off the dead skin. Exotic or just plain weird? Happy Feet, Delhi’s first fish spa, introduces what they refer to as natural pedicures and manicures.

“A species of fish called Garra rufa found in the freshwater basins of Turkey, Syria, Iran and Iraq feed on unhealthy skin, leaving one’s feet relaxed and rejuvenated. The concept of a fish spa originated in Turkey and has become extremely popular in Malaysia, Singapore and Japan,” says Shikha Chandra, 26, owner of Happy Feet in Select Citywalk Mall. In Japan fish therapy for the entire body is popular, but Happy Feet is confining the treatment to the feet. The pedicure is a 30-minute procedure with 600 Garra rufa in the tank. It is done on the first-floor balcony of Select, so the afternoons tend to get a bit hot but evening pedicures are pleasant enough.

The process is simple and begins with mild cleansing of the feet, followed by a dip in fishy waters maintained at a temperature of 30-35 degree Celsius, when the rufas, also called doctor fish or little dermatologists, do their job — bite off dead skin, leaving your skin glowing fresh. “These fish don’t have teeth so it doesn’t hurt at all. There’s just a ticklish feeling. It’s like the usual pedicure except it’s totally natural,” says Chandra, who’s already doing 30 pedicures on weekdays and over 50 on weekends, since she opened two weeks ago.

The fish feast on your feet for 15 minutes. This is followed by a 10-minute foot massage by a reflexologist. The whole process is priced at Rs 220. But if you want extras, like a neck and shoulder massage, it costs more, Rs 375. The fish massage is generating massive interest among shoppers at Select, with even five-year-olds in the crowd of fin-watchers. Just hope these flesh eaters are hungry when it is your turn

Education Vs. Job

Very old topic which we can debate forever.Well I often think of my education and my job. I know it breaks my heart when ever i compare myself,my job and so many other things with others. If you ask me if I am happy with my job. probably i will keep quiet, I am not happy and I do crib. I admit it. Not a sin. While chit chatting with other friends I get to know 70% of them are not happy with their job. Recently I got to learn that most of the people leave their job or make a move because of their bosses...according to them, the bosses really make their lives hell. I have heard my friends saying that he had shifted because of a bad boss and some really dont want to shift because they are blessed with a good boss. Yes salary and growth matter too.

Anyways I have been thinking of my being educated, through out a good student, kind of 'topper' - did it help me getting a job?The answer is no. Well I belong to a family where education pays a very important role and since my childhood I have been knowing that kids have to only think about studies ( Read a BOOK WORM) and nothing else. Even when a kid becomes young adult that person is only supposed to study - no poetry, no story books.no movies and playing around is NO NO. The trend these days is to enroll own self in an MBA inst. and then an assured job but trust me its such a wrong conception. Yes being in the top B Schools help but not beyond that. One has to be capable enough and I can say being the topper and being a studious Good Girl / Boy doesnt help much. I have people around who are dumb, slow, who failed to clear their exams and they are doing well in their career, they are earning double than the topper is earning and the good, studious,obedient topper is still struggling in some corner. So what the education is doing? Why do we all study? Is it only to gain knowledge?or to earn our lively hood? I believe its more to earn our bread and butter than gathering knowledge. Knowledge we cab gather anyways by reading - for that we actually dont need to sit for exams and enroll our selves anywhere. This world is so full of mediocre people that even the better people feel de motivated. Its the best to be just good to compete with average mass. Its frustrating when you are better and just average good mass fail to appreciate you. Being very practical, I dont think one has to be really good,obediant,studious and meritorious to bag and continue with a good job, you may ask me is money everything. Well money is not everything but without money its nothing. Money cant buy happiness but money can play an important role to make us happy. Only education doesnt make us earn but its the ability of going beyond, doing something extra makes the difference.

When I think and look back I ask myself what did I achieve being a good student? My parents, my family and neighbour are proud of the medals and certificates but I am not happy with my job. I still have to think 100 times before pampering myself or buy something extra for myself or go beyond my basic need. Just to earn the basics does one need to have a tag called MBA or post graduate? or through out first class? Even a 10th pass person can earn the basic.


Its important to live and let live. We can live only when our hunger is satisfied - our needs are fulfilled and trust me in today's world we need a fat wallet for that and not piles of certificated, medals. When we our selves are not happy, satisfied we feel irritated and we satisfy our selves by irritating others around us.


So moral of my thought is I still question about education after an extent. I do question the quality of the education as well. I am not disagreeing with the fact that one has to be educated ( learned) to be a good human being, aware, gentleman kind but is actually education helping us being a responsible citizen? I doubt.

An Ad and the communication

I don't watch TV much but yes these days ( actually from last few months) Balika Vadhu in Colors have been playing an indispensable part in my life at 8pm. I like the programme a lot. But will talk about it in some other post.

Today I just could not stop myself but saying ' disgusting' after seeing that ad. Its a leading mobile service provider who has cut down its SMS rate. It shows two friends / buddies sitting / standing / being just next to each other and yet they are talking over SMS. Hello!!!! Give me a break!! Is it what technology is trying to do in our lives? Does it make two friends sitting just next to each other and chit chatting over a small tech box! Sitting miles away using the small box called mobile, sending 'sweet nothing' SMS makes sense but when together can not we just use our mouth and verbal ability? Or tech makes us so incapable that we forget to talk! Then a day will come when we will use buttons / key pads to even shed a tear while departing with the most important relation of our lives or smiling on the happiest moment of our lives.

I loved so many ads from the same company - which are cute, creative, nice and make us feel good, But where the creativity of ad agencies are dying? Or is this the proper way to communicate? Ads which have huge impact on today's youth and kids, what kind of information are such ads conveying? Are not they just trying to even stretch the distance which is already there. We almost have forgotten to visit our relations on festivals, now all regards,hello,love,wishes are conveyed through SMS. its not so expensive. But what about the gap we are creating among ourselves? We are going away from our selves, our loved ones. How many of us talk over dinner? Most of us keep busy watching the favourite soaps at prime time during dinner - all popped out eyes and excitement and we forget may be there is someone at home, in friend circle who may be is waiting to say something or hear something. We talk so much on communication but how many of us are in touch with our old grand parents who are probably staying far away? or maternal aunts? or may be some sisters or brothers of a distant relation? or even a friend??

I am not completely blaming the tech age but to us as a whole and if agencies encourage youth to talk over SMS even when they are sitting together, I must say, we need to be worried about the next gen.